Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Dragons

I have a bad problem of holding in all of my frustrations, anger, and disappointments. I don't speak my mind at all. I avoid confrontations at all cost. I am a bottler, it all builds up until I can't take it anymore then I explode. Kinda like a dragon, except I end up bringing up something that might have bothered me 6 months ago and people don't seem to get what is really bothering me at the time. I have always been that way, I can't help it. I would love to tell people when they tick me off and at that moment not worry that they will be upset with me. I know there is always a time and a place for it. But, just once I would like to tell someone that you have hurt me at the moment it happens and not just bottle it up.

My oldest is a dragon like me, as much as I don't want her to be she is. I can't help it, I have tried to get her to tell someone when they have upset or hurt her feeling but she won't. I have a feeling that something in her life is about to change that she isn't going to like. I am not sure how to handle it. It is going to affect her whole summer.

That being said what do you do when you know someone is going to do something that is going to upset on of your children? I don't mean just by telling them "No you can't do that" but, something that is going to really upset them. What do you do when someone makes a promise to them that they have no intention to keep, especially when it is a close family member?

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City girl turned Country Girl said...

OK now I am your biggest supporter of you speaking your mind!!! I really hope someday you do have the ability to speak your mind. I'm sure some of those times would include me your dear SIL... But you do need to stand up and take control of things and not worry about the moment it happens. You might end up saying something you'll regret but you never know until you do it! And speaking your mind isn't a bad thing, it's informing someone of what they are doing to your feelings.

Christy said...

Well girl speak up! It's better for your health! LOL Ok, so as for the actual issue of hurting one of your children there's two options. Letting your child have that oh so hard lesson that people, even people who love them, they love, etc disappoint and hurt us sometimes. Or you can limit this persons availability to your children.

We can't prevent our children from getting hurt all the time, but if we can help make it gentler I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

RanchGirl said...

I completely understand how you feel! I'm the same way, I hate the thought of speaking up. I don't know why... I would just rather ignore things and go on. But the problem is, like you say, you just end up keeping it all inside until you explode. It's a horrible way to feel...